We’ve each lived so long with our beliefs that they’re virtually inseparable from who we are. We unthinkingly assume our beliefs are the “right” ones, and that everyone else shares the same beliefs we do.
Most (okay, all) conflict comes down to conflicts of belief. We consider someone rude if they’re communication style isn’t the same as ours. Someone is unethical—to us—if they don’t share the same basic code. We’re shocked (shocked!) that someone doesn’t “engage” the way they’re supposed to.
But when was the last time you stopped and really looked at those beliefs that, at your core, govern everything you do and how you see the world? How can we see how our beliefs do—and don’t—align with those of others if we don’t know what our own beliefs are?
To bring change, we have to know the bias we bring. If we can’t assess why a conflict exists, we can’t resolve it. We have to know where we stand so we know how near or far we are to those around us.
As we said as a part of our launch, Brass Tack Thinking is a set of systems and principles for making things happen. We think there are certain shared beliefs that make change more (or less) likely to happen, and we want to know what those beliefs, those principles, are.
Here are some of mine:
- Every moment of our life is a lesson to be learned.
- The answer is there. Keep looking.
- There’s something good in everything, and everyone.
- The “right” way is the way that works, for us.
- Our mind is the most powerful tool we have.
- Everyone’s equal, but not the same.
What are yours? What do you believe?
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